- have severe nausea
- have an ectopic
- have a SAB (spontaneous abortion/miscarriage)
- need a D&C
I also was concerned because I will have to take anti-malarial tablets and of the 3 kinds that are recommended for Ghana - Malarone, Mefloquine or Doxycycline - none are safe during the 1st trimester. I definitely do not want to contract malaria whilst I am there, but I also do not want to cause undue harm to my unborn child. Which, I guess in theory, could happen with not taking anti-malarials and contracting malaria AND with taking anti-malarials. According to the WHO, pregnant women are more vulnerable to malaria as pregnancy reduces the immunity to malaria (an immunity of which I have none of) and increases ones attractiveness to mosquitos due to hormones and pheromones. Contracting malaria in pregnancy increases risk of illness, severe anaemia and death. Maternal malaria also increases the risk of a SAB, stillbirth, premature delivery and low birth weight, which is the leading cause of infant mortality in Ghana.
All these thoughts culminated in us skipping our last round of IUI.
We met with our RE this past week, and told her our decision. We discussed doing a 4th round when I return from Ghana, but we are already booked for an IVF start date of 27 October, so there was not a way to squeeze in both the IUI and IVF start in October, especially with having to take anti-malarials for 2 weeks post-return.
So, we now are set for the following schedule, some of which has been
completed: Husband do pre-IVF infectious disease blood work
- Re-apply for Springstone IVF financing at end of August
- Leave for Ghana beginning of September
- Husband donate sperm for freezing on 2-3 separate occasions during September
- Return from Ghana early October
- IVF counseling 3 October
- Husband leave for 6 months
- Begin IVF cycle 27 October
I know there are many more steps between 3 October and 27 October, but I do not know what they are yet. We will find out on the 3rd! I know I do need to let Attain know that we are beginning our treatment on the 27th. They are providing us four rounds - 2 fresh and 2 frozen - for $16,000 USD. I also need to work out our financing. Our clinic wants the money up front, so we are going to go through an IVF financing company called Springstone. We applied earlier with them and were approved for the IVF amount with monthly payments of $300 for 60 months, $335.97 for 48 months, $412.44 for 36 months or $573.50 for 24 months. It IS quite expensive, like a monthly car payment (which thank goodness, we do not have), but we are going to have to use the financing route as we do not have $16,000 in cash to pay up front by October. Unfortunately, our application was only good for only 60 days, so we will now have to re-apply. I hope we are able to secure as good of a rate and financing for the whole amount when we reapply at the end of this month.
It's nerve-wracking thinking about all that needs to be done and the possibility of not having a successful outcome whilst being out $16,000. I am trying to be positive, of course, but the fear is still there. I had a dear friend who just went through her 4th failed IVF attempt. It is heart breaking. I am truly hoping and praying for success on the first go-round. I'd like to get our money's worth, but really, I'd much prefer early success.